If you’re in a relationship right now and you’re sexually active, ask yourself the following questions:
- Why do I have sex?
- Feels good
- He or she expects it
- To prove my love
- I think I have to
- If a pregnancy or STD was discovered, would my relationship survive?
- Probably not
- For sure no way
- I hope so
- If I stopped having sex, would my partner dump me?
- No, but there would be pressure
- Yes, definitely
- I would be too scared to ask
- Am I satisfied emotionally with my sexual partner?
- Our friendship isn’t what it was before sex
- Friendship? It’s all sex
- I just wonder if there’s more
- If my relationship breaks up, will I be glad I had sex with this person?
- No way, I’ll be hurt and angry
- Sure, it was fun while it lasted.
If some of those questions made you uncomfortable, perhaps your relationship isn’t as healthy as it should be.
It’s important for you to realize that healthy relationships aren’t based on sex. They’re based on friendship and emotional intimacy, which grows out of things like honesty, trust, respect, and communication.
If you’re in an unhealthy relationship, it’s not too late for you to start over and have a fresh start. You can choose to stop having sex and commit to secondary virginity. Sex should be special and beautiful. Good things are worth waiting for… and so are you! Don’t let anyone pressure you into being sexually active.