Secondary Virginity

“It’s too late for me.  I’ve already had sex….”

Actually, it’s never too late to make healthy choices.  Many young people regret their decision to become sexually active and wish they could have a second chance.

Secondary virginity is a second chance.  It’s when a person has already had sex, but now they choose not to have sex again until marriage.  It’s a chance to start over.

Listen to these students:

  • “When I lost my virginity at first it was hard for me because I felt stupid, I felt used.  When I heard there was a secondary virginity I was so happy because now I can have another chance.”
  • “I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and we started having sex a while ago.  I regret that we didn’t wait longer even though we care for each other.  Luckily our relationship is very good because I shared my feelings with him and he agreed that we should wait.  We may not be virgins, but we have chosen abstinence.  I know it is the right choice for me because I don’t want all the stress from worrying about pregnancy, STDs or emotional issues.  I have high goals for myself and I want to go to a great college.  I also don’t want to set a bad example for my younger sister.”

Having sex? Tired of it not working out? Did you know?

A while back, Glamour magazine did a survey at a large western university to find out what sexual relationships were like in college. Here are a few of the things they discovered:

40% of both men and women, if asked, would lie about their sexual past

40% of both men and women, if asked, would lie about their sexual past

21% of the women and 36% of the men cheat on their steady boyfriend or girlfriend.

25% said they new they had an STD and didn’t tell their sexual partner

25% said they new they had an STD and didn’t tell their sexual partner

21% of the women and 36% of the men cheat on their steady boyfriend or girlfriend.

If you’re sexually active right now, you may want to consider secondary virginity.  It can restore your heart, mind and emotions, teach you self-control, and rescue you from many unhealthy relationships.  In the long run, it will help you view sex as something special and beautiful, precious and dignified… something worth waiting for and saving for your wedding night.