Fast Facts

  • Every 2 ½  minutes someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted.
  • 1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men are sexually assaulted.
  • About 44% of rape victims are under age 18. 80% are under age 30.
  • 67% of sexual assaults were committed by a non-stranger:  47% were a friend or acquaintance of the victim, 17% were an intimate, and 3% were another relative.


[Statistics from the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, November 2006]

Is it rape?

  • What if a guy spends a lot of money on his date? 
  • What if a couple has been dating for a long time?
  • What if a girl dresses like she wants to show it off?
  • What if a couple starts making out?
  • What if someone is too drunk to say no? 
  • What if they’re married?

Is there ever a case when it’s okay to force sex on someone?  The answer is no.  It’s never okay to force sex on someone, either through verbal or physical pressure.

Rape is defined as “any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person.”1 

Sexual abuse is a much broader term than rape.  It involves any unwanted sexual advance or contact, and includes everything from unwelcome comments to kissing to intercourse.  The California Penal code describes many types of criminal sexual abuse.  For example:

  • Statutory Rape: sexual intercourse between an adult and a minor (Section 261.5)
  • Sexual Battery:  sexually touching another person against his/her will (Section 243.4)
  • Indecent Exposure:  exposing one’s private parts in a public place with willful and lewd intent (Section 314)
  • Oral Copulation:  forced oral sex or oral sex with a minor (Section 288)
  • Sodomy:  forced anal sex or anal sex with a minor (Section 286)
  • Obscene/Harmful Matter: exposing pornography to minors or involving them in it (Section 311&313)

All of these criminal offenses are subject to fines and imprisonment.  The thing to keep in mind here is: (1) Sexual abuse is not limited to forced intercourse.  There are many forms of sexual abuse other than rape, and all of them are violent and/or extremely hurtful.  (2) Sexual assault may occur by force, threats, fear, or simply in a case where the victim is unable to consent to sexual activity.  If a victim is asleep, unconscious, drunk, drug-impaired, or in any way incapable of consenting to sexual activity, then it’s a crime to continue.  People sometimes think, “It’s okay unless they say no.”  But it’s not okay unless they say yes! 

Sex is a beautiful gift to be given in marriage, not taken by force.  Taking somebody’s body and abusing it for pleasure is one of the deepest human violations possible.  It leaves scars on the soul.



  1. Dictionary.com. Retrived August 2007 from http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/rape.

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